From First Date to Final No

I’ve been quiet for a while...because life has been moving fast. Busy making money, chasing what I prayed for. And honestly, God came through for me in ways I cannot even explain. Financial freedom is no longer just a prayer point...it’s becoming my reality.So before anything else...Glory to God.

Now...let’s get into this newsletter.

About two months ago, I wrote about my first date from Substack. That post? It took on a life of its own. The traffic, the attention, the new subscribers... it was a lot. And i do not take any of it for granted. Thank you, genuinely.

Y’all are amebo through and through.

Since all of you have been asking for updates, here it is. I didn’t even want to write this, but I feel like I should put it out there...because one thing about men? They will test you.

So...let’s dive in.

I’ve been seeing all the “God when?”, “when is the wedding?”, all the sweet and hopeful comments. And honestly? I wish that was the reality. I really do.

After that date, Olumide asked me to be his girlfriend.

I said no.

Not because he wasn’t good enough,I wanted friendship first. I wanted to actually know him. You can’t judge a man fully from just one date. And why would I say yes just because of a few nice gestures...things I can comfortably do for myself? Most women would have said yes without blinking. But I couldn't just hand my heart to a man based on one good date and a few things I can afford to buy myself. So, I told him I wanted friendship first. Time. To actually know him.

So I told him no.

He was doing everything right. Love bombing,good morning texts, good night texts, sweet messages...all of it.

He Said all the things that are designed to make a woman’s knees go weak.

Mine did not.

And I couldn’t fully explain why at the time. Something deep in my spirit just kept saying no.

But if there’s one thing I don’t lack, it’s discernment.

God has really been helping me in that area lately. The Holy Spirit has been guiding me, and even when I couldn’t explain it, something in me just wasn’t settled.

Meanwhile, this man was already talking about meeting my family. Talking about marriage. Saying he was ready to marry me this year.

And yes...on paper, he looked perfect. Money, looks, height, care... everything most women would jump at without thinking twice.

But I kept saying no.

Now here’s where it gets interesting.

After I posted about our date, he gained a few subscribers too... mostly women. And tell me why these same women started asking him out?

Like...why?

One, bless her heart,even went as far as sending unsolicited pictures.

And guess what? He went on a date with her.

All of this...while he was still actively asking me to be his girlfriend.

How did I find out?

I had already started withdrawing because something deep in my spirit wasn’t sitting right. If I couldn’t trust the friendship, how could I even think of a relationship?

Then he called me...and started yelling.Telling me how so many women would worship the ground he walks on. How many women are ready to be with him. Then he started mentioning names...people I even recognize from here on Substack...sitting comfortably in his DMs. He said all of this like it was supposed to hurt me. Like it was supposed to make me panic and chase.

I didn’t say a word. I just listened. Because at that point, I already had my answer. After he was done, I ended the call...Calmly. That was all the confirmation I needed.

You see, one thing I cannot stand is noise. Don’t raise your voice at me. If there’s an issue, speak to me with sense and maturity. The moment respect leaves the room, I follow it out.

He apologised eventually. Of course he did.

But I knew...I was never going back.

And to the ladies who are in the habit of sending nudes to men you don’t even know...just because you saw them on a post and built a whole fantasy in your head...please, continue. I genuinely hope you find what you're looking for. I mean that with my whole chest.

And of course, the fact that he isn't suitable for me doesn't make him a bad person or unsuitable for someone else. If you ask me, Mide is genuinely a good person. But I know where I draw my lines, and once I draw them, there is no going back.

And to everyone waiting on wedding bells —

There is no wedding. 😂

God kept me. That’s the only update that matters.

As always...thank you for reading. Thank you for subscribing. And thank you for reminding me why I write.

Eno❤